Day 2 Report: Framing Fail!

Right, so lets start off with a brief explanation of why I vanished for a year. In short, I got myself into an LTR, became lame, stopped going out, it all fell apart, the end. April I got back into game and have been steadily regenerating my powers ever since, started posting again the other day as I'm closing in on the level I was at, but with some new sticking points that I didn't get before, some that I did get before, but also some things that were sticking points have now resolved themselves. anyway, I did my first Day 2 last night since being back in the game, which makes it my first Day 2 for well over a year!
'How did it go?' I hear you passively enquire, well my enthusiastic blog reading type person, I will tell thee, but first, let me explain something. Blondes are not usually my thing, never really have been, but for some reason I've been more attracted to them recently, and currently 4 out of the 5 chicks bothering to play long game with are blonde, which is very odd. I think a large part of the reason for this is that my recent girlfriend was very much my usual type, so much so that I think I've saturated that taste bud a bit, only the ones that heavily fall into that category have hooked my attention recently and I've been branching out a bit more. Wolf also pointed out the other day that I seem to really go for girls with soft features, the really cute face type girls, and this one I am about to talk about is all kinds of that!
So, I number closed her a few weeks back in the town I normally go sarging in, which happens to be 40 miles from where I live, but she was over this way last night because she was crashing at a friends place before they went to Glastonbury festival this morning. So I knew the logistics for an F-close were going to be somewhat unlikely but I wanted to see her anyway, partly for practice purposes and partly because, well, she's a cute girl (duh!). She drove over early to meet me and I met her outside her friend's place, drove us back into town and we headed to a bar that for the purposes of this blog I will call The Lounge. We chatted for ages and she wanted to know everything about me, which can only be a good sign, and she started hitting me on the leg when I teased her or when she was excited about what she was saying, and at this point I hadn't touched her of my own accord, so she's making a physical connection, very good sign. After a while I started matching and mirroring her body language to generate rapport, and after 30 or 40 mins she starts to copy my body language, so I know I'm definitely in rapport. This is something I like to play with in business meetings, and in a pick up scenario it can really make life easy when done right, one use is to use it by reposition your body as if you are just shifting posture to get comfortable, but int he process getting closer to her, and she will reciprocate, without even realising it, making things a little more intimate.
If you think that is something that should happen naturally like a friend of mine suggested, well, you're fucking crazy, you might as well say 'you should just let it happen' in regards to meeting people and pulling girls, and forget about pick up altogether! Game is all about making the most of everything, using what ever you can and taking every opportunity to get a result. People against this kind of 'trickery' tend to concerned about people being 'tricked' or 'manipulated' against their will into feeling rapport when it doesn't really exist. Well, I call bullshit on that line of thinking! The fact of the matter is that when you match and mirror someone to get into rapport, it's a two way street, you BOTH unconsciously go into rapport, even if you consciously created it. It's like a mental reflex, all you're doing by matching and mirroring is kick starting the unconscious process. but, I digress.
At this point I realised I wanted to escalate, or in plain English I want to kiss her, which is something I totally should have done in our initial interaction a few weeks ago but didn't, fuck knows why, she isolated me for fucks sake! But, even though I know it's what I want to happen next, I'm stalling, and get ready because I'm about to unleash my excuses and rationalisations for this, now I know you're thinking 'Dex, buddy, you were just being a pussy' and you're probably right, but indulge me for a second, it'll make me feel better.
I cant even remember the last time I made out with someone for the first time while I was sat next to them in a quiet bar, I usually I k-close on the dance floor, or stood up chatting in a busy bar or club, but last night it was dead in there, and being sat down I'm not in optimal position to kino escalate with all the incidental and 'accidental' stuff I usually do. However, I'm pretty sure she wants make out as well, because we're in rapport. for those that don't know, every time people do, say or think the same thing, it's actually because they are in rapport, thus attuned to each other, like harmonic resonance (not something as fantastic as psychic connection or as mundane as coincidence).
So, we both sense the need to mix it up, so we leave and have a wander around town. She's never been here before so it's sight seeing time, so I take her down to the old university buildings and churches and shit, all the olden style architecture is all illuminated in orange light and the sun is setting, women seem to love this shit, like they're in a fucking Disney movie. As we walk we're teasing each other, she's doing most of the proper talking still and I'm interjecting to make connection or take the piss from time to time, just being very chill. At one point she tries to nudge me into the curb, awesome, back to creating physical connection and a playful vibe, so now it's on, I reciprocate and half move in like I'm about to escalate then pull back as few times, testing how comfortable she is with that and teasing her at the same time. At the same time I'm also trying to figure out the smoothest way to escalate, my thinking was that it's gotta be smooth on the off chance I'm misreading the situation (I know how crazy that sounds given everything that's going on, but it's been a long time since I went on a day 2, it's just me and her, if it goes Pete Tong I'm not in a club full of girls to approach to take my mind off it, so I'm playing it safe, which was a mistake really. Pussy points to me.
We walk along the high street, I'm still teasing her every chance I get, then all of a sudden I pull a brilliant move (in theory), not totally sure how it went down exactly, she got excited about seeing a certain jewlery shop that she knew there was only 5 of in the UK, I acted like I thought she was looking at something else and in the resulting confusion I grabbed her waist from behind and maneuvered my way around her with my hands on her hips and BANG... we ended up... holding hands, this isn't the vibe I was aiming for, but maybe if I'd figured out what vibe I was aiming for earlier it might have helped, I was driving without directions or a map again. So now we're walking around holding hands, I've not even k-closed this girl yet, and in her mind this is 'our first date', in my mind I'm thinking 'I really fucked up', this is couple shit right here, for an AFC pulling that move would have been a stroke of genus, in fact, a few years ago I'd have been elated by this.
Eventually we end up on the bridge over the river and she pretty much k-closes me, I figure my coolness about it all must have been winding her up to the point she couldn't take any more, I was confident, cool, fun, clearly liked her, but not leching or being needy for the kiss, I'd made her feel so relaxed and good about herself she was getting butterflies (not the only one I've done that to recently), but I totally could have k-closed so much earlier and now I was drastically lacking any sexual framing.
Now we're walking and stopping to make out every so often, and the night is coming to a close (not to be confused with an f-close sadly) and the real cock up was about to happen on the way back to my car. We're talking about how I flaked on BBQ with work in favour of seeing her (which was true by the way, but totally a good line I might use again in the future), and I said I hadn't bothered to tell my boss I wasn't going. She playfully slaps my arm and says 'Dex!' in a fun telling off voice, like she's now considerably more familiar with me, my rapport trick has worked too well, and I turn to her, get in her face again and say 'Woman! you can't tell me off like that yet', adopting the same level of familiarity and implying she will be able to tell me off like that in the future, the word 'yet' was such an error! Her response is 'Can't I!?' in a 'I soooo can' kinda voice, and then she grabs me and makes out with me, thus.... passive acceptance on my part of the frame, double fuck!
we went back to the car, I took her back to her friends place, made out a bit outside, teased each other some more, then I go home.
As I'm just getting my head down for the night my phone gets a text message:
"Sorry if this wakes you up, only just got to bed. Just wanted to say thank you for a nice evening :-) X"

I really do need to sort my shit out and start driving and framing things towards sex much earlier and not go into such deep levels of connection, otherwise I'm just on course to be a love rat. That said, if I was looking for a girlfriend, she would be the sort of girl I'd go for, that in itself might explain my behaviour. Still, not too bad after so long off.