I have just demonstrated to myself exactly how to NOT organise a week of sarging. Here is how it went down; I found out when freshers week was, I booked the time off work.... and that really is all I did. So it transpires that I should have firmed up some exact plans for what to do with this time and how exactly I was going to sarge some freshers. Just because you buy the land, it doesn't mean a house is going to magically build itself on it.
So, despite the epic failure that the week has been, I'm taking my own advice and finding something positive in it. to do that, I'm going to pick apart where I went wrong and what I should have done.
I relied on very few un-firm plans to transpire into the first field tests of Project Skywalker, I also had one very vague plan to hang with a girl I know one night, not one of these things had any one say 'yes we will do it at a specific time and place'. So the first thing I should have done was firm up everything with everyone, and at least some of it would have transpired, serious lesson to be learned there, and one that translates into actual sets that flake as well, must set up those solid day 2 time bridges people!
Secondly, when things started falling through, I just sat back and waited for something to happen... WTF! this is why I got into pick-up in the first place, I was sick of waiting for things to 'just happen'. Now I'm competent in social situations and understand the process of creating attraction with a woman, I should have translated the learning of finding ways to make stuff happen into other areas, especially in the arena of putting myself into situations where I can practice my social and seduction skills. Ultimately this comes down to one sticking point that's been nagging at me for a while now; solo game. Unless I feel I have a wing with me, I don't feel I want to go out and practice game, this is straight up wrong, and in fact, some of my greatest moments in pick up have been when I suddenly and spontaneously busted something out on my own. I need to start gaming solo as a matter of urgency really, if I had gone out to do this at any point this week it wouldn't have taken me very long at all to make some new friends to hang with. This is something that I feel so passionately about that I've built it into Project Skywalker, and as anyone who I've discussed Project Skywalker with knows, the lessons are as much for me as any student, and I'm committing to running through the practical exercises with every student, and all the homework exercises as long as they still apply to me (some are one time only exercises that do not take place in the field), but I'm now thinking that I can't wait around to find a student to go through all the lessons with up to that point just so I can start doing it. this is probably the biggest wall I've hit with game since I started doing it, and by the nature of the sticking point, there isn't anything anyone else can do to help me out, this one is all on me. But by writing it here for the whole world to see, I've now put myself in a situation where I have to do it.
What I'm really quite happy about with all of this is that I've hit a real dip in my progress, which believe it or not is good thing, as these are commonly followed by a massive peaks. I've observed this a number of times, and it seems universal to everyone and in all areas of life when you try to learn and improve at something, just when you start to get really frustrated, your ability seems to drop a bit, but then by sticking with it you suddenly end up better than you were before.
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I'm confused dude,
ReplyDeleteYou want to teach but at the same time you seem to be newbie or still talk epic failures or reaching dips.
Style always says that there is no failure but only learning experience
I also had a hard time understanding (from your blog) where you are with respect to your game, your life, and so on.
Hey dude
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment.
In regards to teaching, I have no interest in being a pick-up trainer, the whole 'Project Skywalker' thing was an accident really, I just started writing and I kept on coming, I've got no intention of marketing it and it's really for my own reference. I've gone into this a bit more in a more recent post: http://dexterity-casualgamer.blogspot.com/2009/09/smashing-solo-game.html
I wouldn't say I'm a newbie, but I'm definately not a 'guru' by a long shot, so yteah, I do still make a number of mistakes, but like you said, there is something good to be found in everything, I always try to find the lesson to be learned in everything, which is what the above post was about.
As far as my life and my game are concerned, that's not really something I'm aiming to go into on the blog, I'm more about finding the lessons to be learned in mistakes or successes and passing them on or putting them up for debate.